For partners
How can I help a partner on their period?
The most useful thing you can do is ask what would help, then follow through. Heat for cramps, painkillers in the house, picking up chores quietly and plans that can flex tend to help most. If pain stops them doing their usual things, or periods are very heavy, it’s worth seeing a doctor, and you can offer to go along.
What tends to help?
- Heat. A hot water bottle or heat pad on the tummy is one of the self-help steps the NHS suggests for cramps. Refill it without being asked.
- Painkillers in the house before they’re needed.
- A warm bath or shower, a back or tummy rub if wanted.
- Picking up the chores that day, without announcing it.
- Plans that can flex. Gentle walks are good for cramps; a big night out may not be.
What doesn’t help?
- Guessing at moods or blaming the period.
- Treating it as an inconvenience to you.
When is it more than a bad day?
If pain stops them doing their usual things, or periods are very heavy, it’s worth seeing a doctor. You can offer to go with them.
Frequently asked questions
What should I say to my partner on their period?
Ask how they’re doing and what would help, then believe the answer. Everyone’s period is different.
Is a hot water bottle really helpful?
Heat on the tummy is one of the self-help steps the NHS suggests for period cramps. Wrapped in a tea towel, and refilled without being asked.
What if they are in a lot of pain?
Severe pain that painkillers haven’t helped needs a doctor the same day. Pain that regularly stops their usual activities is worth an appointment.
Sources
Seventh is a free period and cycle tracker for iPhone and iPad, by doogud. This article is general information, not medical advice. If something feels wrong, see a doctor.
